Hoes before bro's . Rule 1, 2 and 3.

Now, I have been pretty much detached from the world outside of Saudi and haven't been keeping up with what is going on in the real world......yes, I pretty much live in a bubble. As comforting as it sounds, it is also not the most ideal way to live life. Life is full of suprises and sometimes they dont't happen in the desert.
The issue that I would like to discuss is friendship and dating. Actually, women friendships and dating.
My brother always told me that there is a code that boys live up to. That is :Bros before hoes. I didn't understand what it meant before, but now I do. Boys have a written code that a boy will never have relations with his best friend's girlfriends. I mean not at all! If you are a boy and your best boy is having relationships with your ex girl friends... you shouldn't be friends at all. Don't even eat with this dude!! He might just poison your ass!

Now, with girls,  things get a little bit twisted. Look, we women know that there is a higher female population than the male population. Meaning, for every guy there is about 4 women. No shock for me! I read that in the Qu'ran already.  Now, women are aware of the fact that men are not as available. It actually gets really scary the older we grow up. You see your friends getting married and having stable relationships and you wonder to yourself "Did God actually forget about me?" You are wondering to yourself "Lord, why am I in this bullshit relationship?" You see, when you are with an idiot you want to kill him, but when you are alone, you want to kill yourself!!
Coming back to the point, just because your girlfriend is not dating XYZ anymore, doesn't mean you need to dig into her trash to find left overs!! Women do this all the time! The big question is.... is it worth it? No, it isn't!!

Women create the most amazing friendships, but women get so emotionally involved that as soon as a friend steps in our way, we want to rip her eyes out, we want to point fingers, we are ready to skin this bitch alive! I have seen it..I have lived it....I know exactly what I am talking about!
Every girl has a girlfriend that she will not trust leaving her man hanging around. For example. I had a friend (emphasis on the "had") that I could not leave any dude around her for too long. Even if I was going to bathroom I would be like
Me:  I am going to the bathroom
Dude: Oh ok girl. see you in a bit.
Me: No, you are coming with me!!!

Every girl has that friend that you just don't trust. Actually our intuition isn't far from reality. Cause you know as soon as you leave your dude with that chick alone, she will try something!!
Do you see dudes doing that???? No!! Because dudes have a written code "Bros before hoes!".

Also, women like to say nice things to one another but actually don't mean most of it. Boys say bad things to one another and actually don't mean it! So, what is wrong with this equation?
It comes back to the theory that women hate women!!. Why? because we keep nest. We protect what we think is rightfully ours and we try to make a point. However in that process of trying to make a point we hurt one another. Hurt one another in such a bad way that we can't rekindle that frienship we had. We lose the plot sometimes.... ok.....most of the time. Women are amazing beings, and I can vouch for that, since I am a woman myself. We have endurance that no man can measure to. We give birth, which men can't even do, we can multi task our families, jobs and lives and a man would not be able to do that. However, we can get so caught up in it all , that we lose track of what is right and wrong. Sleeping with your best friend's ex boyfriend is wrong!! Sleeping around is wrong in the first place. Secondly, judging each other is wrong too. How can a friend open up and be honest about what she feels and believes if she knows that all her girlfriends will be judging her like SURVIVOR?? Thirdly, let no a dude break a friendship!! It is not worth it.

Another code in the bros code is "there isn't payback...except for money and food." Just because your girl did you bad back in the day, doesn't mean you must rise to the occasion and show her a lesson or give her a taste of her own medicine. Have you seen dudes showing each other how they will get each other?? Na, actually dudes do it like this. If a boy's girl goes and sleeps with his best friend (big If), the boy will not get mad. He will actually ditch that girl and say "thanks dude for showing me light. Now we know what she really is!" Do you understand how bad it makes us look?? However with girls it is always pay back! Do something to me and I will show you!! If your girl did something with your boy, you will go do something with her boy!! Who is fooling who in the process?  We are fooling ourselves ladies!!

I won't talk too much on this topic. I am sure you must be wondering why on earth am I writing about this. Well, I have seen too many friendships break up, because of this. Frankly I think the morality of it all is compromised severly. That is why I simply stick to one girlfriend and one dude friend. A girl needs a friend that will love her unconditionally. A girl that will have your back 24/7. Listen don't compare your friendships to the "Sex and the City" movie, because that is all fiction and far from what is really going on. Also, know your place in the friendship. Don't just jump in and make judgment if your friend is doing something that you wouldn't do. Learn from each others mistakes and try not to repeat them. My mother has always told me "no friend is better than no friend." She's right! Even in Turkey, people don't believe in having many friends.
 I have a girlfriend who is like blood to me and she is the only one I would stick my neck out for. I have one guy friend who is like a brother to me, and I would stick my neck out for him if trouble comes along the way. Also these friends know their place, because I know my place. Don't judge if you don't want to be judged. Love unconditionally and they will unconditionally love you back and always make time for them. The rest are just that "the rest". Don't let the rest determine your future and holding you back. Don't let the rest keep you at their level,  because they can't reach higher.
I have a friend who met a dude, got married and just had their first baby. She did it in the speed of light Why?? So that no other woman can interfere. Take notes! If you have a dude that you think you can eat with for the rest of your life, don't waste time. Claim that man as soon as possible without saying a word. People must just see you married already.

Ladies it is a wilderness out there, not enough meat to go around. Also keep your relationship life seperate and private. Don't go around announcing to all your girlfriends "He is like the nicest dude on this planet." They will raise their eye brows and the next thing you know, that "nicest dude on this planet" will no longer be yours. So keep your shit private!!!

That is all I have to say for now. I hope this has made you think, laugh and come up with plans to take the right move forward.
Remember ladies...... Hoes before bros!!